Allergic to drama

​I have a bad allergy and it's probably not what you think .…
Seriously…
My body has a full on physiological response….
My stomach turns…
My teeth tighten…
My temperature rises…
Until I eventually hit a threshold.
Maybe it’s my Enneagram type. Maybe its my long history of not seeing the value in it since childhood. Or maybe I recognize its Maybeline and you’re just putting make up over the real issue.

If we’re going to have a conversation and my subconscious mind gets the itch this is turning into drama… be prepared for one of two responses.

If I care about you, I will ask questions that will eventually lead you to the actual problem.

If I don’t care about you, I will politely listen until you have recognized I am not going to feed your BS. I get it, sometimes we all need to vent.

If you’re like me and can’t stand drama, let me give you some help that made all the difference in the world for me.

There are 3 sides to drama and this is the cycle. The Persecutor The Victim The Rescuer back to the Persecutor. Round and around.

Want to break that cycle? Figure out which role you are playing and go the other way with it. The Rescuer needs to empower the Victim. The Victim needs to challenge the Persecutor. The Persecutor needs to ask the Rescuer “is being co-dependent actually the best strategy?” Or “how long do you plan to be an enabler?”

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​Spencer